Experience ''OMG, Yes!'' Pleasure Tonight

Of all the techniques out there that lead to total female satisfaction, these are the ones experts say the majority of women overlook way too often.

half naked couple on bed

Robert Whitman

1. Do It Before Sundown
Most of us get it on before bed, but that isn't the best time for women to have sex, says Laurie Mintz, PhD, author of A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex. Not only are you sleepy, but postwork worries cause your body to release the hormone cortisol, squashing your sex drive. In the a.m., women and men have naturally higher testosterone levels (which explains his morning wood). So set your alarm to go off earlier, and give him a sexy wake-up call.

2. Treat Him Like a Sex Object
"Women spend too much energy worrying about turning a guy on," says Joel Block, PhD, coauthor of Sex Comes First. To enjoy sex more, be selfish. Ogle your guy as if he were Taylor Lautner in Eclipse. By assuming the role of the "viewer" and focusing on your desire, you're less likely to be self-conscious and more willing to do whatever comes to your dirty mind.

3. Let It All Hang Out
Do you suck in your tummy when you're on top? Bad idea. That makes it harder to breathe deeply, which is a key to reaching orgasm, says certified sexuality educator Amy Levine. Instead, try the tantric trick of slowing your breathing and taking deeper breaths. The extra oxygen will make your orgasm more intense by increasing blood flow below the belt.

4. Lock Eyes
You look everywhere but his eyes during the deed because it makes you feel vulnerable, says Block, but it's one of the best ways you can connect when naked. It sends the message that you're really into him and keeps your arousal high because your guy is mirroring his desire back at you. Ease into it by meeting his gaze for a few seconds and giving a sexy smile, then build up to longer eye contact.

5. Make Some Noise
Moaning, heavy breathing, and sighing during sex ups arousal by stimulating your central nervous system, says Mintz. Plus, if you don't speak up, he'll have a harder time figuring out what you like. Saying something like "Slow down — this feels incredible" is a positive way to get your message across, she says.

6. Insist on an O
You're so close, you can practically taste it, and then…he finishes first. Don't call it a night: "Make it clear that your needs are just as important," says Mintz. If you don't, it's easy to build up resentment (even if you're not aware of it), which can strain your relationship. Focus on your orgasm first, or if that doesn't work, brush your lips against his ear and purr "I want you to help me finish." Then hand him your vibrator.

Source: cosmopolitan.com

Bust Out of a Sex Rut

If your sack sessions have gotten a little stale, try these saucy strategies to shake things up!

"Not right now, honey. I'm doing my nails."

Anna Palma

File this in the go-figure folder: When you're in the early, adrenaline-infused phase of a relationship, the sex is off the charts. Then as the love becomes more intense and you settle into couplehood, the nooky often cools off. "Even good sex can become routine," says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. "You may have an orgasm every time, but it's a little mechanical and boring because it's always by the same route." Thankfully, you don't have to sacrifice lust for love. Reviving your sex life is easy — and a hell of a lot of fun. Here, steam-it-up solutions for banishing bedroom boredom.

"Not right now, honey. I'm doing my nails."

Anna Palma

"We always do it at the same time." You wash your face, brush your teeth, catch Leno's monologue, then — bam! — get busy. It's as if a mental "let's do it" alarm goes off. Sound familiar? "When you always have sex at the same time, it becomes another thing you squeeze into your schedule," says Barry W. McCarthy, PhD, author of Rekindling Desire.

Steam-it-up solution: To make your passion less predictable, tap into the fact that you're not amorous only during a scheduled time slot. "Act on your erotic instincts whenever they strike, despite the fact that it might seem inconvenient at the time," advises Kerner. Does the sight of him washing his car rev your engine? Drag him indoors and jump his bones. Who cares if it's Saturday afternoon? "When you give in to your lusty urges at different times of the day, the act itself will be hotter because it's unexpected or at least unplanned," says Kerner. That's what Shannen,* 24, discovered when her randy routine became too rote. "One night, we were cooking dinner and Brad got some gravy on his face. I was feeling playful, so I licked it off," she recalls. "I decided to taste-test the rest of him, so I swiped a dab on his neck and licked it. Then I lifted his shirt and dripped some on his chest and abs. Well, one thing led to another, and before I knew it, he lifted me up onto the counter and we were going at it."

*Names have been changed.

"Not right now, honey. I'm doing my nails."

Anna Palma

"We're on autopilot." His hand is on your thigh, now it's on your breast, and you already know exactly where it's headed next. In fact, you could graph the coordinates of where whose fingers, limbs and mouth will be for the next 20 minutes. "When you know the most efficient way to get each other off, the tendency is to follow that same sequence every time," says Jane Seddon, author of Daily Sex. But when sex lacks variety, things can fizzle fast.

Steam-it-up solution: One way to figure out fresh ways to push each other's hot button is to take turns being the giver and the receiver. "By forgetting yourself and homing in on his pleasure, then switching, you can discover new erogenous zones," says Kerner. So tell your guy that tonight is all about him. Give him a massage to clue in to untapped erotic territory, like his ears, feet and nipples. Focus on his reactions — i.e., moans, grunts and a rapid-fire heartbeat — so you'll know what drives him wild, and concentrate on those areas. Later (or even the next night), pull a role reversal.

Another way to crank up the excitement: Play with different positions. "Varying poses requires more involvement from both partners because you have to concentrate on what you're doing," says McCarthy. "You can't tune out like you would when you do it the same way every night." That's what helped Hayley, 32, and Ethan, 31, spice things up. "Our sex life had gotten routine, but one night, my guy wanted to try a crazy position he'd seen in a video, and I was game," says Hayley. "Half the fun was rolling around trying to figure out what was supposed to go where."

"Not right now, honey. I'm doing my nails."

Anna Palma

"The bedroom is the only place we do it." The boudoir may be the most convenient place to participate in carnal activities, but staring at the same four walls is uninspiring. That's why you need to vary the venue. "Sex is about more than just touch; it's about the stimulation of your surroundings," explains Seddon. "Doing it somewhere out of the norm adds an element of fun and makes you feel a little deviant, which is a turn-on for many people."

Steam-it-up solution: Transplant your sack sessions to a place that feels sneaky or taboo, like the backseat of your car or on the picnic table in your backyard. "The thrill of messing around in a forbidden place plays to our innate fantasies of exhibitionism and voyeurism," explains Kerner. That naughty factor is what helped Lisa, 25, and her boyfriend, Dan, 29, get out of their rut: "We were at Dan's parents' house for his sister's engagement party," she says. "While everyone was upstairs oohing and aahing over her ring, Dan whispered to me that he wanted to mess around. We never do stuff like that, but the thought of getting it on somewhere off-limits turned me on. So we went into an out-of-the-way bathroom downstairs and had a quickie. I was kind of scared, to be honest, but that just added to the excitement."

You don't have to put your ass on the line — simply having sex in a different room will shake things up. Make it a rule that at least once a week you have to get busy somewhere other than the bedroom. That'll give you plenty of opportunities to do it in front of the bathroom mirror, in the tub, on the living room floor (watch out for rug burns!).... You get the picture.

"Not right now, honey. I'm doing my nails."

Anna Palma

"We're not amped up anymore." There's something to be said for having a steady diet of nooky. But abstinence makes the libido grow stronger. "Skipping sex for a couple of days is a form of delayed gratification," says Seddon. "Waiting enhances the anticipation factor, making you more turned on, so when you do have intercourse, it will be better and more fun."

Steam-it-up solution: Hold off on having sex for a few nights, and you'll both be jonesing for a rendezvous. "After Mark and I had been together for about a year, our sex life was getting pretty status quo," says Sasha, 24. "But when he went away on business trips and I didn't get to see him on a regular basis, all I could think about was how I couldn't wait to get my hands on him. By the time he'd get back, we were both so horny for each other." If your guy isn't leaving town any time soon, take the opposite approach and go away for the weekend with your girlfriends to make him miss you.

Another way to turbocharge your libido without abstaining totally: Forgo full-on sex and focus on foreplay. "If you only have foreplay for a day or two and get each other really worked up, it'll make the sex much hotter when you actually do it," says McCarthy. It might be hard, but vow not to cave. The wait will be worth it. "The sooner you realize that sex isn't just about intercourse, the more likely you are to avoid getting into a rut in the first place."

Passion Perk
If your guy's sex drive is stalled, maybe this added incentive will help: New research from the Society for Experimental Scientific Social Research, Hamburg, shows that regular sex actually increases intelligence.

Source: cosmopolitan.com